I am thinking that for this baby it would be fun to do a Blessingway party instead of a baby shower. My thought is that every baby deserves a celebration but we really really don’t need any more boy stuff since this will be our third boy! I like the idea of a Blessingway since it is more focused on the celebration of new life rather than STUFF. Which I really don’t think there is anything wrong with a baby shower, it just doesn’t fit with what our family needs or wants right now. I am a little worried about how all of the attention might be focused on me for so long because I was raised to be “Selfless” and “Not desire attention” to the point that it was almost shameful if you had attention on you in any way. Now I don’t think this now but those feelings come up for me sometimes just because I was basically brain-washed into thinking that for so long. The other issue is making sure people can and want to come. I feel like I want the event to be on the small side and in the evening so hopefully everyone’s kiddos including my own can be sleeping and mothers can have a good time without having to worry about them.
A few of the traditions I have been reading about include beads/charms being given to make a necklace for the mother to wear while in labor or from then up until her birth. Each bead represents something special from the giver, and hay have something to do with a memory the woman has had with the mother or perhaps a thought she feels will be helpful during the birth such as ‘patience” or “strength.”
Another tradition that my dear friend brought to my attention would be to write special thoughts on candles for the mother to light during her labor and birth. I have seen alternatives such as smooth rocks being used as well.
Other traditions are about taking care of or pampering the mother and preparing her for her birth. I have read about hair brushing, braiding and putting fresh flowers in her hair and giving her a foot bath or pedicure. Other focus on celebrating her pregnant form by decorating her belly with henna or doing a belly cast and decorating it.
I know for sure mine will include wine and good food though. 🙂 Maybe my birth track will play in the background!